Thought Seeds!

“Watch your thoughts for they become words.

Watch your words for they become actions.

Watch your actions for they become habits.

Watch your habits for they become your character.

And watch your character for it becomes your destiny.

What we think, we become.”

Margaret Thatcher

Close your eyes for a minute and imagine a rolling hill plentiful with a beautiful flower garden, vegetable garden and orchard brimming with the most beautiful flowers, vegetables and fruits you have ever seen.

  

Can you smell the flowers, taste the sugar snap peas, and feel a little peach juice run down your cheek. There is nothing comparable or more delicious smelling; or tasting than fresh flowers, fresh vegetables, and fresh fruit picked right from the tree.

True gardening takes skill, talent, knowledge and time.  Endless hours of planting, watering,weeding, pruning, and lots of other hard work goes into having an immaculate garden, and orchard like you pictured.  However, no matter how well all of the above are completed it wouldn't mean anything if you started out with a bad seed.  If you had a bad seed you could pour all the water in the world to it and weeds would grow in it's place.

Seeds and gardening are similar to a marriage.  We will begin with the seeds.

Think back to when you were dating your spouse.  Do you remember the countless hours you spent day dreaming about your new found love. The time you were apart you spent dreaming and anticipating how wonderful it would be when you were back in their presence again.  You were so happy.  Love was in the air and life was great.

However, somewhere between your "I do" and the stress of life your thoughts turned from sweet to bitter.  Instead of thinking about how wonderful your spouse is your thoughts turned negative.  Negative grumblings about how he leaves the toilet seat up, leaves socks on the floor, doesn’t take out the trash, doesn't do this, and whatever else about him that drives you crazy.

God tells us in Galatians 6:7 that a man reaps what he sows. Your thoughts are just like seeds.  If you have negative thoughts about your spouse, your entire marriage will be negatively affected.  If your thought seeds are positive that will positively affect your marriage. 

If you constantly focus on the negative and brood about your spouse’s faults; that is going to be how you react and interact with them.  Even if you think your thoughts are safe because you only “thought it” and didn't say it, that isn't the case. Remember, your thoughts dictate your actions.  

Your thoughts are like tiny seeds you are planting, and the results will be what you planted.  You don't get a corn plant if you plant a squash seed.  If you think negative thoughts about your spouse your actions towards them will be negative.  On the contrary, if you think positive thoughts about your spouse your actions towards them will be positive.

Thoughts are powerful!  If you are skeptical see for yourself.  For the next week think only positive thoughts about your spouse. No matter how hard this might be; I know you can do it. 

Keep any negative thought out! If you begin thinking a negative thought immediately replace it with a positive one.

In order to immediately replace it with a positive one you will need to write down five positive things about your spouse.

To help you do this; spend time reminiscing about the early days of your courtship and marriage.  Focus on the thoughts and feelings you once had before you put on your high powered "fault spotter goggles".

If the thought of five positive things overwhelms you; begin with one.  If you are still struggling to find anything positive find a powerful scripture.

When you start to think a negative thought about your spouse; immediately replace it with a positive one or recite your scripture.  

Ladies, you set the tone for your family, and the tone you set begins with your thoughts!  What will you sow, weeds or flowers?  Ask God to help you in your commitment to sow positive, beautiful thought seeds about your spouse this week.